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Dealing with loneliness on Valentine’s Day

Whether or not Valentine's Day is overrated is a matter of personal opinion. Some people may see it as a special day to celebrate love and connection with their partners or loved ones, while others may view it as a commercialised holiday that places too much emphasis on material gifts and societal expectations.

Valentine's Day can be an especially challenging time for those who are struggling with loneliness. It can feel like the whole world is celebrating love and connection, while you're left feeling isolated and alone. However, there are things you can do to battle loneliness and take care of yourself during this time and beyond.

1. Reach out to friends and family

When you're feeling lonely, it's important to remember that you're not alone. Reach out to friends and family members who care about you and make plans to spend time together. Whether it's a coffee date or a movie night, spending time with loved ones can help you feel more connected and supported. 

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2. Volunteer in your community

Volunteering is a great way to connect with others and make a positive impact. Find a cause that you care about, and look for volunteer opportunities in your community. Not only will you be doing something good for others, but you'll also have the opportunity to meet new people and form connections.

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3. Practice self-care

When you're feeling lonely, it's easy to neglect your own needs. However, taking care of yourself is essential for your well-being. Make time for activities that bring you joy, such as reading, taking a bath, or going for a walk. Self-care can help you feel more grounded and centered, even during challenging times.

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4. Try something new

Trying something new can be a great way to break out of a rut and form new connections. Take a class or join a club that interests you, such as a cooking class or a book club. You'll have the opportunity to meet new people and learn something new at the same time.

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5. Seek professional help

If you're struggling with feelings of loneliness or isolation, it's important to seek professional help. A therapist or counselor can provide you with the support and guidance you need to work through your feelings and form new connections. They can also help you develop healthy coping strategies to manage loneliness and other difficult emotions.

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Here are some free resources available and what to do if you or someone you know is going through a difficult time.

NHS Mental Health Helpline for your area:

They are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for free. If you call, you'll speak to a professional in your local NHS mental health service. They can discuss your current mental health needs and provide access to further support if needed.

Shout 8528:

Text Shout 8528. Shout 85258 is a free, confidential, 24/7 text-messaging support service for anyone who is struggling to cope. Since launching in May 2019, they’ve had more than 500,000 conversations with people who are anxious, stressed, depressed, suicidal or overwhelmed and who need immediate support.


You can call 116 123 to talk to Samaritans, 24 hours a day for free or you can email for a reply within 24 hours. Every day, Samaritans volunteers respond to around 10,000 calls for help. They’re here for anyone who’s struggling to cope, who needs someone to listen without judgement or pressure. Samaritans is not only for the moment of crisis, they are there to prevent the crisis by providing people with ways to cope and the skills to be there for others.

Remember, battling loneliness is a process, and it takes time and effort to form new connections and build a support system. Be kind to yourself, and take things one step at a time. With patience and perseverance, you can overcome loneliness and build a fulfilling and meaningful life.

Ultimately, what matters most is how you choose to approach the day. If you're in a loving relationship, Valentine's Day can be a wonderful opportunity to show your partner how much you care. But if you're not in a relationship, or if you don't feel like celebrating, that's okay too.

The most important thing is to honor your own feelings and needs, and to do what feels right for you.

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